Been there after a move too—my cousin went full private mode on IG and it felt like guessing in the dark. I get wanting context before confronting her, but we stayed away from any sketchy tools and just looked at what was visible + her general online patterns. It didn’t give the full picture, but enough to calm our assumptions. After that the talk was way softer and she didn’t feel ambushed. Not perfect, but it kept trust intact. Helped keep things grounded.